If you are reading this, then chances are you are somehow connected to alcoholism. Either you, your family, or someone you care about drinks to much, and can not seem to help themselves. For those of you that are dealing with this problem in a parent, you are particularly torn. You do not want to be the person that turns them in, and you do not want to live with their alcoholic ways any longer either. It is a double edged sword. Fortunately, there are some solutions to your problem. Here are some helpful tips on how to deal with an alcoholic parent:
Recognize The Problem For What It Is – The hardest part of being a child of an alcoholic is getting over the shame. You surely have dealt with this on some level, and it may even be a secret within your home. That said, you need to understand that alcoholism is a disease. It is not much different than cancer, or any other disease. The biggest difference is that it is a disease that affects the mind and the decisions that a person makes. It does not mean that your mom or dad is bad, or that they are somehow rotten. It means they are sick. It is not your fault, nor is it your burden to carry. This is the first step to dealing with a parent who is an alcoholic. Realize that they have a problem, and that you can not fix it. They must take that step themselves.
Make Yourself Better First - Before you can do anything at all for your parent, you must realize that you are at risk. Not only are you at risk to their alcoholic behavior, but you are at risk of going down the same road. It is common knowledge that alcoholism runs in the family sometimes. You must make a commitment that you will not continue the chain. This is vital to your being able to get through the addiction cycle that your mom or dad is in.
Have a Support System - It is absolutely vital that you have an adult that you can rely on and trust in your life. Being a kid is tough enough without an alcoholic parent. When you add in the stress of that, you can easily reach a critical overload of emotions. Your pastor, your uncle, your aunt, your teacher, your counselor, your coach at school, or anyone else that is older that you trust should be made aware of your situation. You are not turning your back on your parents in doing this. You are actually doing something your parents would want if they were clearly thinking.
Ultimately, someone with an alcohol problem has to face the music. Make sure that you have this person available to you in an emergency, and that they are willing to support you if possible. If you have nobody, then you should contact your domestic hot line at (800) 799 – SAFE. This is a great resource to get you the help you need.
Your safety is the most important thing, and making sure that you have a safe place to go in an emergency is not a bad thing. It does not mean that you love your parents any less, or that you are turning your back on them. This is a problem that only they can solve, and sometimes it takes help they are not at first willing to accept. Always be willing to call 911 in an emergency situation, and never hesitate if you feel that you are in danger.
With time, your parent may end up getting the help that they need. Always keep your own mind and conscious clear, as you are not at fault. Nothing that you do or do not do can make them better. Only they can do that. You can, however, make certain that they chain ends with you.
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